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בבייביסנטר בשאלה-לציבור מה עושים עם פעוט שלא מוכן לשכב בשקט ושיחליפו לו חיתול, ובמגוון תשובות שחלקן נראה לי די מועיל. אני לפחות מתכוון לנסות חלק מהן עם הפרטי שלי ברגעים הפחות סבלניים שלו...
התשובות היותר מועילות לדעתי (שוב, אנגלית. התעצלתי לתרגם. צר לי, אבל לפחות הקדמתי בכותרת תמציתית בעברית...):
להשתמש במדבקות -
My son hated his diaper changed, until I started using stickers. Every time I need to change his diaper, I ask him if he wants a sticker. He now knows that a sticker is fun, so he runs to his room and is occupied during his diaper change. I stick a Blues Clues sticker or Diego sticker on the top of his hands and he's is totally happy so I can change his diaper with no problems. The first few times we did this, he wanted stickers all the time, but I insisted that "stickers" are for diaper changes only...and it works !
זו הזדמנות נהדרת לצחצוח שיניים -
My 17 month old son loves his tooth brush. So I put some of the toddler tooth paste on it and let him brush away. His teeth should be very clean cause he brushes them about 8 times a day!!
תמיד כדאי לשיר שירים -
I was reading how one mother sings "twinkle twinkle little star" to her daughter during changes, and I wanted to add that I too sing to my 17 mo. old son. I've been singing the "Old McDonald" song. The animal sounds keep him interested and you can sing it so many different ways, so that diaper changes don't have to be hurried.
אפשר לקחת את זה כפרוייקט, לחזק חיזוקים חיוביים בכל פעם ששוכב בשקט, ולהתמיד בעניין -
My 21 month old son gave us trouble changing his diaper when he was around 16 months old too...He is very strong and fast it would take two people to change his diaper. After all the drama one day i asked if he wanted to " help mommy change his stinky diapy". I would let him hold a few wipes or the diaper ointment and then praise him for being so helpful. That worked but now my new dilemma is him taking off his diaper whenever he goes. Go figure...
+ My 17 month old starting squirming at about a year. I began telling him: "Help Mommy change your diaper, please lay still," while holding his waist still. It took about three weeks until he understood that when he stayed still I would get very excited and clap and tell him "Thank you for helping Mommy!" He likes my reaction much better when I'm happy and excited, and now he is good for everyone who changes his diaper!
+My 16th month old started this about a month ago. One day while I was changing him my husband came in looking perplexed at why he was struggling so much and simply said, "lie still jack," and he did! Little did I know that for weeks, every time he got up, my husband when getly put him back down and tell him to lie still. Then praise him like crazy and clap when he did. (I said, thanks for letting me know you taught him this!! ) I now have very few problems with him laying still. I also sometimes have him hold things he likes, like an old cell phone, keys or a spoon. Also, it may seem early but it might be time for potty training, all kids are different and with some work I bet you could do it!
אפשר לתת לילדונ/ת מגבון לח ולעודד אותו לעזור על ידי ניגוב חלקים אחרים -
My son is 17 months old and the only thing that gets him to lay still is for me to give him a baby wipe while I am changing him. He wipes his tummy with it, thinking that he is helping me wipe his bottom. It is so cute!!!
אפשר להיכנע, ולתת לילדונ/ת חפץ שהוא מאוד אוהב, כמו הפלאפון של אבא/אמא -
If she's really cranky, I'll give her a phone. She loves the sound the buttons make and I can usually keep her from calling China.
אפשר לנסות ולהתקדם למושב-מעבר בבית-השימוש, לפחות כאיזור נוח יותר להחלפת חיתולים -
Around 15 1/2 months I began introducing my son to the toilet since lie down diaper changes were just not enjoyable for anyone! Got him a special seat and stool and set myself up for diaper changes in the bathroom. Now he gets to put his "poo-poo's" in the toilet, flush and wash his hands in the sink like a big boy, and is more than happy to lie down, or stand up to get a diaper back on. Changing wet diapers is no longer an issue either since they're so much quicker! As a plus, he now recognizes when he's gone to the bathroom and will go to the bathroom door for his little routine!
[אני מתכוון לעסוק בשאלת הגמילה מחיתולים בפוסט אחר, כשיגיע זמננו, אבל מאחר והנושא מוזכר בתשובה הזו, אזכיר שלפני ששוקלים ברצינות גמילה מחיתולים, כדאי מאוד להיות מודעים למורכבות הנושא, ולפחות לעבור על צ'קליסט מוכנות-הפעוט/ה לגמילה מחיתולים, לפני שנכנסים לפעולה. ]
ואם כל זה לא עוזר... אפשר להתנחם להתנחם במידע הבא -
While at my DD 18 month checkup, the doctor asked if she fought me during diaper changes. When I said, "YES for about the past three months!!" he said that it was good and that she was developmentally where she should be. While it doesn't help the battles during the changing, it at least gives me reassurance that she is on track.
וכמובן שאם שום דבר לא עובד, אפשר גם להתדרדר לאלימות -
Let's face it - the easiest thing to do is just change them in the floor where you can use your leg to hold them in place and get it changed really fast. I know, I know, I can hear all the gasps from sweet little moms who try to reason things out with a toddler, but in my experience there's no reasoning with a toddler and you just have to do your job.
הבהרה: התשובה האחרונה מאוד מאוד הצחיקה אותי, אבל רק בגלל הדיסוננס בינה לבין כל התשובות האחרות. בדרך כלשהיא היא דורגה במקום מאוד גבוה בתשובות לשאלה שהפוסט עוסק בה, בבייביסנטר, שהוא בדרך כלל אתר כלבבי. אני משער שזה בגלל שהתשובה הזו אפשרה להרבה הורים מתוסכלים שנדרשים להיות מוקפים בסגנון הורות קשוב ונאור, לשחרר קצת אגרסיות... אני כמובן מאוד לא ממליץ על הגישה הזו. הגישה שלי מאוד פשוטה - קצת סבלנות חבר'ה. אני יודע שזה מתסכל בטירוף, במיוחד כשהילד/ה מנסה להסתובב כמו פרופלור קטן, עם חיתול מלא קקי שבדיוק פתחנו, אבל הילד/ה בסה"כ רוצה חופש.
בסופו של דבר, זה הרי מה שכולנו רוצים...
